Plus Ones/moh

I’ve posted before about plus ones for my destination wedding. I’d decided on “no plus ones” but would adjust on a case by case. No one has needed a plus one, as we’d invited mostly family and all couples were addressed and invited as such. However, someone in the forum made note that giving my sister/MOH a plus one would be kind to do. However, her best friend is our makeup artist for wedding and my sister’s roommate at the resort. My sister asked last month if she could invite a guy friend. I told her I didn’t mind, however we have a discount code for 25 rooms only so I needed to ensure those rooms went to our chosen guests first and would let her pass the code on once I started receiving RSVPs or declines. She thought this wasn’t fair and it was keeping me from giving her a “plus one” because it wasn’t fair to ask him to pay full price. I tried explaining that it wouldn’t be fair of us to ask our friends and family to pay full price if we exceeded the 25 rooms, so we needed to ensure they were taken care of. As expected, we of course received some declines so once that happened I offered her the group code for her guest and to my knowledge he’s been invited as a +1.


Our resort is 18+ and can only accommodate two people per room, however they have a nearby family resort that can fit more guests in one room, which is a more affordable option for some of the guests. My sister and the makeup artist are sharing a room at the adults only resort. My god-family has chosen to stay at the family resort to keep costs low. But they called me this morning asking who the fifth person in their room would be. Turns out my sister invited another one of her best friends to the wedding and my mother is planning to stick her in the room with my god-family for affordability so that my sister’s friend doesn’t have to pay the full cost of a room by herself. My god family called me upset because they are not comfortable with this option because they are four adults, so adding another adult just seems ver uncomfortable. I told my mother and sister this so their solution is to just have my sister (MOH) change resorts so that she, the make up artist and the second friend can all share a room instead. I’m very against this option as well because that puts my maid of honor AND my MUA at a different resort, when I would prefer my MOH at the very least be with me for support. My mother is upset and saying that she will just pay the difference for my sister’s friend to have her own room because having her there is important to my sister (which I think is also unfair because she never offered to help any of my best friends who are not making it due to finances… not that it’s her obligation to to offer *at all* but it hurts my feelings her priority of importance.) my mom thinks I am being unfair and that my sister will need someone to hang out with, which is why she needs the plus ones. I know the MUA is not technically her plus one, but I booked her because my sister suggested it so I thought that meant they would hang out in their down time. However, I’m also just so upset because my sister has barely fulfilled any MOH duties and even tried inviting her friends to the Bach party which I thought was also uncalled for because I feel that’s an intimate moment for me. I thought that she would be at the resort to support me with wedding finalizations and rehearsals etc, not bringing 3 extra friends when I’d already told everyone from the beginning I wanted to keep the wedding as small as possible (it has SNOWBALLED INTO A MUCH BIGGER EVENT).
Idk I guess I’m more so just venting. I’m not sure if I’m just being an emotional mess or a bridezilla or if my feelings are justified.